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29 Pieces of Advice I've Learned Over 29 Years

1. Do things that scare you. I don’t mean jumping out of planes or going deep sea scuba diving (unless you really want to), I just mean that trying something you’re afraid of can actually wind up being very fulfilling - and often times, far less scary than you thought it was.
2. Being kind is SO important. It’s probably the most important thing there is. It’s very simple and makes a HUGE difference.
3. People don’t fit into neat little boxes - don’t put them there. You don’t know someone’s story just because you know a few superficial details about them.
4. It’s really easy to let the day-to-day frustrations get to you. Don’t let them get to you. I know, it’s much easier said than done, and I’m not sure it’s possible for anyone to ever be perfect at this, but doing your best to look at the big picture can really help keep you grounded when things aren’t going your way in the short term.
5. What’s right for you may not be right for someone else, and that’s okay.
6. Read books that are targeted toward a younger age group than yours.
7. Read books that were written by someone who is completely different than you.
8. JUST READ BOOKS. (Come on, you saw this coming.)
9. You may not always realize the impact of the things you say, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t make an impact. “No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.” Use yours to make positive change.
10. It’s okay to not be okay. Hold on, one more time - IT’S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY. There seems to be this idea out there that if you’re dealing with mental illness, you shouldn’t talk about it, or you should just pretend everything’s fine when it isn’t. This mindset is unhealthy. It is absolutely okay to talk to the people in your life about what you’re dealing with. It’s okay to ask for help when you need it.
11. No one’s life - NO ONE’S LIFE - is as great as it appears on social media. We only post our best 10% most of the time, but this creates the illusion that what we share on the internet is all there is to us. Don’t let social media fool you. Everyone has struggles, everyone has bad days, you’ll never be alone in that.
12. I’ve gotten very good at finding the best, most delicious avocados. I’m an avocado aficionado. This isn’t really life advice so much as bragging about my semi-useless skills. Whatever. #noregerts (in summary: if you need help finding good avocados, I’m your gal.)
13. Good, solid friendships are hard to come by and even harder to maintain, but they are well worth the effort.
14. Pineapple on pizza is a thing, okay? But only under the right circumstances. Pineapple + Canadian bacon. Don’t @ me.
15. Speaking of pizza - MAC AND CHEESE PIZZA FROM TOPPERS. You’re welcome.
16. If you have the means to travel, absolutely do it, even if it's just a drive to a different part of your state. Get out there and explore. Learn how different people live in different places.
17. Sometimes you just need to dance around your room and be silly. It's fine.
18. Ask people questions about themselves, the more random, the better. You never know what you might learn.
19. “How to Deal” is one of the most underrated movies of all time. Do yourself a favor and watch it sometime.
20. Did I mention reading? Because...reading.
21. Those adult coloring books are really great things.
22. If you enjoy Jane Austen’s work, the “Lizzie Bennet Diaries” & “Emma Approved” web series on YouTube are fantastic. If you don’t enjoy Jane Austen’s them anyway. I’m 99.99999999999999% positive you’ll like them.
23. Don’t let one failure or setback - or even multiple failures or setbacks - define you. You get to decide whether or not to be defeated. “This thing that we call ‘failure’ is not the falling down, but the staying down.”
24. “Fairy tales are more than true: not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.” Whatever your ‘dragons’ are, you can beat them.
25. Enjoy the little things in life. It’s not cliché.
26. I will never understand how HGTV and Food Network shows are so addicting to watch. I will never be able to redesign a home like that. I will never be able to make a perfect batch of risotto. Yet I cannot stop watching and having the delusion that one day I could do both of those things. Anyway, if you’re not already addicted to those channels, give them a shot. It’s fun to live vicariously through someone with talents you yourself do not possess.
27. Make time to do the things you enjoy.
28. Listen to music.
29. Be nice to people.


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